Tips For Writing Your Own Personalized Wedding Vows

August 21, 2018 By 0 Comments

Let’s have a chat about wedding vows, shall we?! By now, you already know that we love weddings and anything romance. Why else do we shoot primarily weddings?!

We are always so happy to begin dreaming about your special day and how we’ll go about creating a lifetime memory for our clients as well as helping them plan their wedding.

Traditional wedding vows are good and still evokes romance on the wedding day. However, one thing that grabs our fancy is when a couple writes their own personalized wedding vows. We’ve been through this road, which is one of the reasons we run this photography blog for you.

In this article, we’ll be sharing how to go about drafting that heartwarming, romantic and captivating vow. A wedding vow that will absolutely make your better half remember how you both fell in love.

First and foremost, be certain that your future spouse is on the same page about writing your vows. Secondly, determine if you will want to write one vow or individual vows.

Lastly, depending on your religion (where applicable), confirm that you can go ahead to write your vows. Some religions are quite traditional and want to maintain some wordings. If that’s the case, you can ask your officiant if you can incorporate those words into your personalized vows.

Once this is all clear, you can go ahead to apply the tips below for a personalized vow.

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1. Draw inspiration from others

The internet floods us with information overload but most often than not, we can use it to our advantage by drawing one or two inspiration ideas from others. You can also explore traditional or religious books with love stories and rephrase a line or two to soothe your love story. Libraries shouldn’t be left out too if you are a book lover, you can explore some novels and get inspired as well.

“It’s amazing how one day someone walks into your life, and suddenly, you can’t remember how you lived without them.”                                                          —Anurag Prakash Ray

2. Write out your relationship history

How did you meet? Is there a unique story? Did you grow up together? Was he/ she your first love? Did you go through some challenges at the beginning or halfway into your relationship? How did was your proposal, did you anticipate it? etc.

Writing out these simple facts or history can go a long way in helping you develop and build your vows. In any writing, a story is usually unique and captures emotions as well as shares feelings. If you are able to share a bit of your story, no matter how little, you’ll be able to write a romantic and endearing vow.

3. List some promises you want to keep

Even though you are writing your own wedding vow, it’s still not just a literature to get every guest’s attention on your wedding day. It’s a vow and special words that you want to cherish a lifetime. You should list two to three promises that you’ll love to make to your one true love.

Remember that as much as you are reading your vows to the hearing of your wedding guests, they are only but witnesses. The most important thing to note is that this will be the day you solidify your love with your spouse and no better way than making a couple of promises!

4. Discuss with your fiancé, the tone of the vows

Do you want to incorporate humor into your wedding vows? Do you want it to be more formal? These are a couple of things to discuss with your fiance so that you both are on the same page. One person won’t be all about funny and the other so stiff – that might be a bit awkward.

5. Practice

Write out your vows in some way as you’d write an essay: a beginning, body, and summary! Then remember that practice makes perfect (at least to an extent, no?!)

Read it in front of a mirror and if possible, have a friend or family member listen to it. Indicate pauses where necessary, take a deep breathe like you’ll love to on the day of your wedding and get familiar with the words.

6. Make it Short

As much as possible, remember to make your vows brief when writing it. It shouldn’t be too long and bore everyone out. You should be able to make it succinct while still capturing the moments you’ve cherished so far and the future you foresee. Finally, type and print it out and make it fancy if you want to. Save it somewhere special for your wedding day.

If all fails and you are still finding it difficult to write a vow, we’ve shared a brief template below for you to edit to your taste.

Sample Template

(Name of your to be husband/ wife), you are (the person I want to be with forever, my bestfriend and confidant, etc.) Today, I take you to be my (husband/ wife, and life partner, etc.)

I recall how we first met (briefly explain your relationship history or any memorable fact/ event). I knew that I loved you and you loved me too after you (briefly explain the day you knew you were to get married, etc.)

Today, I promise you that I will always be (faithful and always willing to listen, etc.) I vow to (honor you, love you, respect you, laugh and cry with you, support you in meeting your goals, listen to you speak, etc.), for as long as we both shall live.

Are you planning your wedding? Remember, we share several wedding tips and planning articles on our blog. Check out our previous wedding blogs and pictures or engagement sessions and feel free to contact us right away for your wedding photography or videography! We can’t wait to shoot your special day.

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